Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell. Proverbs, Chapter 23, verses 13 and 14.
The Bible doesn’t mean it’s acceptable to beat your child when you’ve had a hard day at work or you’ve lost your temper. I think this Bible verse is referring to them getting a branch and swatting their child’s bottom when they have made significant mistakes to warrant it. I think this was done to motivate them to not make that severe of a mistake again. (My parents used a paddle which used to have a rubber ball attached. My uncle drew a “frownie face” on it, which worked as a deterrent for more serious infractions. My parents didn’t do this in a fit of rage. Time out and logical consequences seemed to work for most situations, but there are times when more serious consequences are necessary.)
I think of talk shows that have mothers and fathers as guests who can’t control their kids. Their kids seem to control the adults and their household climate. Their children are hateful and self-willed and bully other students at school. The police are now holding the parents responsible for not controlling these children. This Bible verse makes me think it’s better to reprimand the children when they are younger than to have to deal with the police later.
Of course, there are children who get into the wrong groups and get involved in drugs and other vices that change the child’s whole personality. That’s why it’s vitally important that parents take an active role in their child’s life. It can be difficult when parents work and the child has time to hang around with friends after school. Raising our children by taking them to Sunday school and Church on a regular basis can prove to be beneficial. It is better that children grow up with positive Christian values, rules and consequences. This may give them a better sense of right and wrong that could keep them from being so vulnerable to negative influences. It sure beats having to go to court to explain why your child is unruly.
Here are some related passages:
*The father of the righteous shall greatly rejoice: and he that begetteth a wise child shall have joy of him. Thy father and thy mother shall be glad, and she that bare thee shall rejoice. Proverbs, Chapter 23, verses 24-25.
*Correct thy son, and he shall give thee rest; yea, he shall give delight unto thy soul. Proverbs, Chapter 29, verse 17.
Let not thine heart envy sinners: but be thou in the fear of the LORD all the day long. Proverbs, Chapter 23, verse 17.
I realize that as human beings we sometimes envy all the attention people get in the popular groups. I have found myself thinking that if I were to wear certain clothes or behave in certain ways, then I would get all the same attention. It really isn’t worth lowering our standards to lead that type of lifestyle. I don’t want to be a “Sell-out Christian,” selling out my Salvation for the opportunity to be popular.
Hearken unto thy father that begat thee, and despise not thy mother when she is old. Proverbs, Chapter 23, verse 22.
God doesn’t only have advice for parents in the Bible; He has advice for children, as well. He wants children to listen to their parents. We aren’t to resent our parents or ignore them when they get older when they aren’t as convenient to take care of. I don’t think He’s saying we’ve done our bit to put our parents away in a nursing home somewhere as long as we pay the bills. I don’t have the perfect answer but I’ve seen the elderly in nursing homes, starved for attention because they haven’t seen their children in months or years.
I admired the way my family pitched together to try to keep my grandfather at home where he felt comfortable as long as they possibly could. My great-aunt would take him shopping for groceries. My uncle would come mow his yard and clean around the house and my aunt would look after his legal issues that he was oblivious to. My other uncle took care of his finances. My mother would balance his checkbook, trying to locate the necessary paperwork. Many family members were involved, some living closer and some far away. Everyone helped in whichever capacity they felt able. His aging presented a situation that seemed to pull the family together.
Because this is an example of how I’ve applied this Bible passage to my life, it doesn't necessarily reflect the whole meaning of the passage.
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